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It may be palatable to reinforce sterotypes and lazily reason that things are the way they are because that is how they were meant to be. Nutritionless food tends to be palatable. In your defense of Dr. You go on to suggest that Dr. Gray is simply communicating research findings in a way that is appealing to laypeople. In fact, our position is quite the opposite. We fully agree with you that it is important for research findings to have mainstream outlets.
Gray were communicating actual research findings, we would applaud his work. Unfortunately, the problem is that Dr.
In fact, it contradicts well-established findings on relationship maintenance and relationship well-being. Rather, many of them have been tested and discredited. Finally, I also feel the need to respond to Dr. Speaking as a relationship scientist myself, I can tell you that it is common practice to test for gender effects in every study my colleagues and I run, and I know the same is true of many others in the field.
So, when you come across a relationship study that does not mention gender, it is unlikely that gender effects were not tested for. It is much more likely that there were no gender effects to report, as has been my experience with most of my own findings.
Unfortunately, and in contradiction to established scientific research, the public perception pervades that men and women think, feel, and behave drastically differently in the context of romantic relationships. This may come from stereotypes, it may result from the media, or it may even be the work of self-help book writers such as Dr.
But I can tell you one thing about this belief: First of all, I would like to thank Samantha Joel for a well-articulated argument regarding the scientific literature on gender and relationships. I would also like to add that, if one is going to condone using phrases such as "gender intelligence", one might want to be careful how they are defining intelligence; the general public believing that men and women are vastly different certainly doesn't equate with intelligence.
In fact, the only thing it equates with is the aforementioned availability of information e. John Gray's mass-produced self-help books versus an empirically backed scientific article pointing to contrary evidence.
Furthermore, I implore that you use a more relevant example. I don't think it makes much logical sense to compare the body's need for various vitamins to the behaviors exhibited by men and women.
You are assuming that they both have the same fundamental basic make-up, which they do not, thereby ruining your argument from the beginning. Allow me to illustrate: You say that "all vitamins are important to the body's health but if one vitamin is overlooked and we are deficient in it, then certainly it becomes the most important vitamin.
By putting forth your "gender intelligence" you are only propagating this deficiency because you're allowing an outlet for people to, let say, chalk it up to differences. Don't you think it would be more fruitful to focus on getting a more balanced intake of vitamins and minerals than isolating yourself to the one causing your deficiency? If I get into an argument with my spouse, I have less motivation to effectively solve the problem because, well, he's a man and is thus "different" from me.
Gray, if you insist upon continuing your endeavor to back-track, despite the amass of scientific literature available to YOU, then I simply ask that you discriminate yourself from the scientific community so as not to confuse the general public and question their so-called "intelligence.
I think we need to be very careful when using clients as our basis for facts and credibility. Gray specifically set up credible research studies with his clients and published these findings? Have these findings been peer reviewed?
Have his results been replicated in future studies by other professionals? Gray has observed characteristics he finds to be true within his office, his sessions, and within society. That's perfectly fine and there's nothing wrong with that. We do it every day as individuals in a variety of capacities.
He has an opinion on a subject he sees in his office often. However, an opinion is not science. An opinion that fuels theory and books is not science. Shouldn't the scientific research come before the books? Is it me or did Mars Venus Coaching just ask the opposing researchers to test their theories for them? The opposing researchers found different results and the responsibility of defending Gray's theories is on him, not the opposing researchers.
Gray's books are popular, but not science. They're enjoyable to read for many, but not science. They help a great number of people gain insight into their relationship and communication patterns, but not science. It's a self-help book that many relate to, but not science. If the books were science-based, I'd love to read the studies.
I hope that Lyndsay Katauskas and Mars Venus Coaching decide to pursue studies to test their theories. It's wonderful for the scientific community to challenge each other and continue these important social discussions. Thank you for the comments; I take them all to heart.
My intention before I write or say something is to assume goodwill. I seek truth, congruency, and mutual respect when interacting with others. When I asked my original question, I was pondering the intention behind publishing an article about casual sex with ulterior motives where people reading the article would find justification in continuing to have relationships lacking emotional depth and maturity. As helping professionals we have an ethical responsibility to be fully present for our clients, and to be able to hear them without prejudice or believing the fallacy that we know better than they do what is right for them.
This is not based on a religious belief, but a spiritual value I hold of coming from a place of unconditional love, and hoping others do the same. Women who are looking for a discreet casual encounter have boyfriends or husbands. They are not looking to date or start new relationship; they just want an nsa casual encounter hookup.
All my life I've always been "The Good Girl. My body looks great and I feel better than I have about it in years.
And I want to be able to say that I had some kind of fun for once in my life. The beauty of it is that I have no emotional attachment, and that all I want is a wonderful romp. He Loves Me Not What the latest research says about the benefits and risks of growing close.
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Submitted by Anonymous on July 7, - Professor Holmes, I agree that gender differences are not the biggest area for people to focus upon when dealing with relational issues. Below is what John Gray, Ph.
That's not what the evidence says Submitted by Anonymous on July 14, - 2: Katauskas, With all due respect, your argument seriously conflates readability with scientific accuracy.
Relationships need more than vitamins Submitted by Nicole Atkins on July 14, - 4: Hernando Chaves on July 14, - 6: Did I mention that Dr. Gray's books are not science? I appreciate the research Submitted by Lyndsay Katauskas on July 19, - I appreciate the research done to understand relationship health. I wish everyone the best in their endeavors for seeking personal truth and growth. I agree Submitted by Anonymous on November 16, - 1: I have sought out and am Submitted by Anonymous on February 22, - I have sought out and am about to have my very first casual sexual experience.
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