See here for more:. They all just think they are entitled to be unconditionally loved while they do whatever they want and the list out an impossible list of demands before they would ever consider a man worthy of their golden vaginas.
I don't remember saying that women or men deserve anything In fact, if you read my articles, I generally make the argument for a fair trade in relationships. I believe that all things must be earned.
Yes, feelings of entitlement do seem to be an issue among people, but that doesn't mean that any one person has to buy into the b.
I would recommend instead to screen and qualify any future partners for what you want, to the degree that you have valuable things to offer in return. If you are a good man, then don't settle for less than a good woman. If they hand you a list of demands, then ask them what they plan to give in equal trade for such traits. That tends to jar an individual out of the entitled mindset and back to the reality of fair trade. Either they will start qualifying themselves at that point and you have yourself a potential partner - or they will become indignant and you can next them quick for not having anything of value.
On paper - what you say makes a lot of sense Then again, it might. I've never tried it. I am continuing my transformation, and have walked away from potential relationships that involved smoking, meanness, flakiness, and dishonesty. The problem is that the list keeps getting smaller. Maybe that's not a problem. I would rather be alone than in a bad relationship.
I feel like I've done everything I can to meet the woman that I've defined - and even a little above and below that. I'm a believer in casual efforts lead to casual results I can understand your frustration. Historically, men and women didn't have to negotiate these trades so directly.
There were stable religious morals and social roles that kept everyone trading fairly and equally, without the need to verbalize it directly. Unfortunately, many people threw out religious morals - and the social roles with them. Then along came various gender ideologies that taught people to completely mistrust the opposite sex and, more recently, to devalue men altogether.
So now, rather than having an easy cookie-cutter relationship formula social script to follow That is not a good social basis to build a relationship on. Given that reality, some individuals do choose to forgo relationships altogether - either as a short-term only hookup type, or "go their own way" entirely. Others, however, do try to navigate the current "wild west" landscape and sometimes find love. Although it does often take way more work than it should, with society pushing against it, it is still possible.
Having said all of that, these challenges by women for super-high standards are simply attempts to evaluate and influence you - what the PUA's call a "shit test". They can be dealt with by simply ignoring them, or deflecting them slightly in a different direction as I note above. However, I don't exactly grab a clip-board. Instead, I do something more like this:.
I want a man who will cook, clean, feed me bon-bons in bed, rub my feet, make a ton of money, etc. Yea, all women want a high-end man. High-end men don't just settle for any random woman though.
You must be special. What what do you have going on for yourself that will make him choose you out of the crowd? Jeremy - Thanks for the feedback! So not only have I defined high standards - I've done what you suggest in a more subtle way. Qualifying is a great tool. However, it doesn't cover flakiness Any suggestions for being a lizard and a high-end man at the same time? Youre making excuses for women to make poor dating choices. There are women few that fall in love with men at a young age, marry them, and stay married to them until one party dies.
They dont have any desire to be with anyone else and theyre submissive. So why don't you just love yourself since it seems that's what you're best at. You obviously hate women so how could you ever be in a good relationship with them? You're doomed to fail before you start because your negative, resentful view.
It's not like we have no minds to self-evaluate. People, for the most part, are aware of their actions; they just choose to ignore them. We don't have to live alone to figure out how to behave or our desires or likes. It's doing something with someone for a long time. I really think we need to take responsibility for how we think and behave.
That's just justification for having an endless, unbroken string of boyfriends because women are incapable of ever being alone. Letting a bunch of guys use you is not "building social skills ", its just making sure you always have a date.
But if being used makes you feel crummy, you can't even like the person who is looking back at you in the mirror, then change your situation and leave it alone.
The most important thing is for each of us to feel good about ourselves. I recently ended a relationship with a man who said he would be all the things I wanted but he was nothing but a street thug player like the man who hurt me in the past which made me scared to love.
Now as of yesterday I am with a nice guy and I don't feel the same spark however he is nice and want the same things as I. I don't want to use him Exactly - what they want is non commitment and discrete orgies - can I get any worse for women? Oh and I'm sure it's her fault of course!!!
Umm, you are an idiot. I was single until I was 22 and I was the most happy freakin chic on the planet!! And it's not because I wasn't attractive, people still tell me I should be a model.
I had tons of guys trying to be with me. I was a tri-athlete, honor student, very popular, talented, ect, but I had high standards and was attracted to men who were more mentally mature, but too old to take me seriously at the time. So I went on a few dates, but never found boyfriend material. Then, I finally gave someone a chance. We "fell in love", he proposes, but I had to break up with him eventually, which was really hard because I sincerely cared about him and he would make it seem as if his life would end if I left him.
Needless to say, he was crazy and the relationship wasn't healthy at all, but I was too loving for my own good and wound up suffering several years with him. So there you go for women always having to be in relationships. That's just so ignorant I find it completely enervating, especially when I look at myself and how far from the truth that statement is. And no I don't mess around or hook-up with people so it's not like I have to be with a guy in any capacity I do not have male friends either.
Can you say the same? I do however believe a key factor to my healthy self-esteem and self was because I had a very affirming and affectionate father so I didn't have that emptiness and insecurity a lot of women suffer from. But I find a lot of men cannot be alone just the same and for that very same reason usually and that is a trait I find rather repulsive; an insecure, needy dude my ex.
I just wish that people wouldn't get into relationships when thy're not healthy and wind up hurting other people and messing them up. I was so selective and still wound up with a "not so good" man. It's making it hard to be the good woman I have always strove to be.
How do you avoid these guys, really? And where are these "good" men? I have yet to find one. I think as men and as women, we all like to put ourselves inside boxes that simply don't exist.
Women and men have some general differences and some general similarities in the way we think, but beyond that, we're all fairly unique in one way or another. Saying that all women MUST be dating at all times is offensive because that's definitely not true for all women; some have very successful and fulfilling periods of being single.
And, it's the same for men. People can't be lumped into one box that defines who they are. I think the key to overall fulfillment is to spend some time and define yourself. Don't put yourself into a pre-defined box that society tells you to fit in. Define yourself by the things that make you happy, the things you want to do or accomplish, your general morals and motives, and your short and long term goals.
Do some planning and start living life by your definition of yourself. Everything else will fall into place around you after that. You will have good experiences and bad experiences, good relationships and bad ones.
But, you will always be satisfied as long as you have defined yourself it can be an evolving definition , and you are living according to that definition.
I had to respond here I have had 3 years of being single and the dating sites and the men on there expect sex and thats all their interested in. I was in a long happy marriage,widowed and looking for love again.
Very thoughtful post, and I am by NO means an expert, but does your scenario sound like placing the guy in the dreaded "friend zone"?
I was in a very loving marriage 35 years because we were friends,lovers. To absolutly love someone with all your being. Anyone who wants this kind of love and friendship needs to open their heart to it. I have decided for me it was a once in my life and have to be satisfied with that because the males I have come in contact with don't have a clue how to woo a woman and be there for her.
My late husband was always there for me This is possible for anyone who wants it,it's a shame that so many guys don't maybe their lazy or don't know how to love.
It has nothing to do with a person's wealth or career it has to do with where there heart is. Hookup culture is a new paradigm that many women find empowering. Try to experience the post-feminist dating scene - it is a liberating change from the patriarchal woo-date-marry prison that enslaved so many women over past millennia.
He was supposed to be here now, damnit?!? Women waste their youth on thugs and bad boys, whilst the "good men" study hard, work hard, endure being shunned, used, abused and wanting a family they cannot have: As their future "partners" are still busy taking it three ways by the local bikie club. Marriage was introduced for a reason - to ensure a stable society.
The next couple of decades are going to be very interesting. I for one will be investing in pet food companies and Big Pharma shares. I'll make a killing with all of the crazy cat ladies who will boost my share returns with their tears. I can't understand some women who having hookup sex can be satifying? At the end of the day I feel lost and lonely without my mate.
Love is not mentioned from most here. We were designed male and female to be together thats why we're attracted to eachother but monogamy from both is very important to have self respect and a lasting relationship. Male and female sexuality was controlled by the institution of marriage for an important purpose: The stability of society.
Do you think our society is going to continue the way it has been going and prosper? You have to right to go out and screw every guy you meet and I have the right to hate you for it. If we don't want a relationship with you because you've let yourself be used as a wipe -rag by a bunch of slobs, that's our right I don't think you should HATE without just cause.
I see you being in disagreement with someone for their views, but jus to HATE them I don't really think you would HATE her for it I think you are merely speaking that way because you are a controversial type of person who enjoy the communication that comes from it. As you already know, a steady relationship is difficult to obtain, with so many people having different agendas, and not having the commonalities that two people need in order to sustain a relationship.
I'm not being a smart elek I really would like to know your view or anybody else's view on that. I hear what you're saying and some will say you have a very valid point regarding hook-up sex, but I say this Hook-up sex has it's place.
Within a sexually healthy person, the feeling to make love doesn't go away just because we don't have that someone special to share ourselves with. It is very frustrating to lie in bed and feel those sexual urges take over your limbs.
Some of us are more sexually prone than others The sex toys can only do but so much. There's nothing like having another warm, participating body next to yours. The toys cant kiss you gently on your lips and neck. The toy cant breathe in your ear and lick and kiss you all over your warm, tingly flesh. The toy doesn't have hands to touch you in places that will send you into total arousal mode.
The toy surely can't speak sweet nothings into your ear and it certainly can't get a spontaneous rhythm going with you. I don't feel good about women having to take pharmaceuticals to calm their nerves because of lack of intimacy As women we need to be smart with our sexual encounters and use protection to guard agains STDs' and unwanted pregnancies People will judge you, so discretion goes a long way.
Everybody doesn't have to know your business either. If it were meant for everybody to know your business, it would be posted in the sky So, what you're saying is be a total slut and then lie about it so you can sucker some poor sap into marrying you.
Marriage was invented because women can't be trusted but today a woman's evil is "none of your business ". So shut up little man, don't ask questions and pay the bills and help change the diapers of some kid that probably isn't yours anyway.
It wasn't my intend to offend anybody. I guess I didn't think it through enough before expressing my opinion I understand why so many of you are disagreeable with it. I've grown up in the same society as you.
Are you a virgin Mr. Because unless you are why are you upset that women have sex? I actually am not a sexually active woman, but you're still sexist as hell. Firstly, men have done that throughout history and demand a chaste female while not exercising chastity or virtue themselves. Another woman hating hypocrite? I would like a chaste guy, but as a woman, it would be considered common place for my future husband to have multiple partners before meeting me and it would be an evil that is "none of your business " and not for me to judge.
And I would be getting someone's "sloppy, used-up seconds". Men are even expected to have many partner before marriage, so why is it acceptable for one party and not the other? It is completely illogical. And what are people? Mere items to be used? Merchandise that is preferred brand new or otherwise not worthy of purchase? Gosh there's nothing worse than a filthy, woman hating hypocrite!
Please, do us a favor, don't marry us, don't even look at us! Matter of fact, please castrate yourself so you don't ever have to endure someone else's sloppy seconds again! What a POS person you are Most of us dont know how. But niether did our parents. So we just do what we know how as best we can. The big rush for sex in relationships is very off-putting for me. I am not a prude, but I am not comfortable having men rush me for sex.
To be honest, the deepest love and longest relationships I ever had with any men were "friends" who, if I had been asked at first glance, I would have said I could not have have imagined ever having an intimate relationship with them. Guys, if you want a guarantee of "sex for sure", best to hire a professional. Don't pressure a potential girlfriend right off the bat.
Not every women responds instantly. To be truthful, I think men will have sex almost 50 times more frequently with random strangers than women. That's the truth, especially among the 40 plus crowd. I hear what you're saying. I'm 51, 18 months departed from my husband and I come across those types of men all the time myself I've even met some of the online men in person and there agenda comes across loud and clear, but I am also aware of the fact that we as women have control over what happens or doesn't happen.
He can't do any more than we allow him to do. So I just be my usual charming self What I'm trying to say is Trust when I say, if he is intrigued by the first meeting, he will be back and each time he's in your company he is steadily and constantly getting to know you as a person and although sex will ALWAYS be on his mind with every encounter He will appreciate and respect you for it.
I love a woman in control of herself I have a feeling you are a very loveable guy If all I end up with is a GF, then that's what you are suppose to be to me, but haven't you heard, GFs have been known to make the best BFs? Life is give and take. Sure, I'll listen - to a point. Sure, I'll try to make you happy - to a point.
As a man its my duty to give you the gift of me. Anything less will make me a GF So in other words, it's your duty to please that booty huh? If a woman is taking too long to have an encounter with you, then you should ask her "why that is? If you disagree with them, then you know right then and there she is not the one you want to continue spending time with.
It doesn't make her wrong nor does it make you right I'm sure that does happen When I realised that he was ashamed of being seen with me, I felt as if I had been punched in the stomach — a place where much of my pain already resided. He did me a favour by not continuing to lead me on.
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He needed to keep our relationship on the down low so that no one would ever suspect that he enjoyed spending time with me … a fat woman. When I realised that he was ashamed of being seen with me, I felt as if I had been punched in the stomach — a place where much of my pain already resided. He did me a favour by not continuing to lead me on. Her words resonated with them, and they all shared the same truth.
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Yes, sex on a first date is a thing. You would think that sitting in a barber shop with someone you had literally just met, and watching them have something done that's so personal would feel strange.
But honestly, I just sat there with him feeling like we had done this very same thing many times together in another life. After the haircut we were hungry again, so we had dinner. The night ended with us doing it on the fire escape of the venue that my little brother's band was playing at that night.
I don't think it's a timing thing as much as a person thing. If you're on a date with the person who's 'the one,' it doesn't matter if you sleep with them on date five or fifty. Lisa Concepcion, love strategist and founder of LoveQuest , offers an alternate approach to the right timing for having sex with someone new: Instead of putting a set number of dates or timeline on it, figure out what you really want in a potential long term partner — and don't give it up unless those important factors are hit.
When I made him get clear on who his ideal woman was he got really honest. He admitted he wanted a woman who knew how to cook. He wanted a woman who had a solid group of friends, because he felt that he could tell a lot about a woman by the company she keeps.
He had a dog that he had rescued, and found that women would date him but treat the dog as an annoyance. So I told him, 'No sex until she cooks for you, you meet her friends and she hangs out with your dog. Within the first date he learned that she had great friends — most that were educated with good careers. She too had a dog, and had purposely raised it to be social so it would get along with other dogs. And she loved to cook. When you focus on what's wanted, the law of attraction serves it up.
Within the first two weeks he took her out along with their dogs to a park to play and walk around. She offered to bring snacks. They were homemade and delicious. She even made dog treats!
He said it was the best date he had been on in a decade. They went out four more times, and then they went on a group outing. She invited her friends and he did the same. All of this momentum, and they hadn't even slept together yet.