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Omotesando, Toyama, Roppongi note: And for some more specific niches: Akihabara is the spiritual home of male geeks. Shimbashi, Akasaka and Yurakucho are the haunts of salarymen. A true cheapo, however, knows far more cost-effective ways of finding a potential mate. Perhaps the best opportunities come in the form of festivals or matsuri , of which there are an abundance in Tokyo, especially in the summer also the season of fireworks.
Check out our events pages , or better yet sign up for our cheapo weekend newsletter and get the hottest Tokyo event listings delivered to your inbox each week. On weekends during hanami season, Yoyogi Park is a veritable zoo resembling some sort of deranged music festival in which all the performers, bands, organizers and security failed to turn up. But most parks and locations of sakura cherry blossom trees are usually teeming with punters and festivity.
Need we say more? Last but not least, house parties are always a great and cheap environment for making new friends. Due to the lack of space and the noise prohibitions, few households throw parties, but there are some exceptions. Tokyo is without doubt one of the safest cities on the planet at least in terms of crime; earthquakes, tsunami and Godzilla notwithstanding. And there are many tales of the police being uncooperative in helping tourists trying to file crime reports, etc.
One possible exception is host bars. The intrepid can take advantage of these deals, but a few rules of thumb: Or perhaps you just fancy a change from the aforementioned pokey apartment. As a rule, the cheapest place is never the first one you come to. Another consideration with love hotels is that you often end up getting what you pay for—the absolute cheapest option is often a poor value proposition, so paying slightly more than the minimum will get you considerably better value.
Some hotels offer point cards—though you might want to keep your card to yourself if you are taking multiple paramours to the same spot.
But first, an important disclaimer: What karaoke booths do have going for them is that they have actual doors and ceilings, as opposed to manga cafe booths, which tend toward open-ceiling-ed cubicles with half doors that are easy to peer over or under.
Also, karaoke will muffle any suspect sounds, while the manga cafes are much quieter and lack actual walls. For the naturalist cheapo, Tokyo provides fewer outdoor options than most cities, but there are some good spots if you know where to look.
A certain number of apartment blocks have no main access door, so you can just walk in and head straight for the roof. And then there are cemeteries—people the world over are frightened to venture into the resting places of the dead after dark, so a big graveyard may just make the perfect spot for some privacy in the early hours.
Bridges over major roads are also strategic, as road signs provide ample cover from the cars below, and pedestrians—if any at 4am—are probably too drunk or tired to be of any concern. They also have a decent selection of sex toys, from dancing with yourself vibrators, Fleshlights, etc.
Here are some cheap and free STI clinics in Tokyo:. Free STI testing twice a month. Consent is not something that should get lost in translation. Tokyo and the people who inhabit it are not a playground; in all matters, proceed with explicit consent only! Tokyo flea markets are a great for bargain-hunting, pick up a new kimono or snag a new book on a shoestring!
One note of caution regarding Japanese house parties…unlike the Western concept, which is basically: Sometimes the host has done a brilliant job of catering to their guests and you feel the cost is legit, other times you feel cheated after paying yen for some cans of beer and snack food from the conbini. Always best to check before going to a house party whether you will be expected to pay. You can pick up reasonably priced wines at Seiyu department store.
OK, so Australians walk around drinking from the bottle while our guest of an unspecified nationality pours the wine from a perfectly good glass bottle into a plastic water bottle. I think the Australian approach makes more sense to me! We do the same in China, fear not. I would point out that love hotel coupons are also available in the magazines Yoru Date Navi and Tokyo Date.
The cheapest and best value option for a love hotel is to go during the day during the week....